Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am. Phil 4:13 (The Message).
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A Holy Resignation

by Hayne Steen, MAMFT 

I have recently been walking with a close friend through their decision to resign from a ministry they hold near and dear. It was not a decision forged on impulse but one of slow release, like the unclenching of a fist wrapped tightly around. It was a decision that was made in community. It was a slow reveal that the time had actually come to have that first conversation to follow through on what we had discerned was the wisest timing. 

Letting go of good things, even great things, can be terribly frightening. Especially when our identity gets all wrapped up in the spokes of our work. Even more when we love what we are doing and who we are doing it with. 

In Jim Collins' book, Good to Great, he spotlights how it is often not the bad or terrible things that keep us from greatness. It is in fact too many good things that keep us so severely distracted and overcommitted, and ultimately unable to make that pivot toward greatness. 

The challenge, for my friend, is that they are letting go of some things on all three levels...some really bad and terrible stuff, a laundry list of good things...and a really great thing. We seem to appreciate the letting go of bad things. It is even possibly conceivable to let go of some good things. But letting go of a great thing? Who does that? 

Letting go of a "great thing" may be seen by many as "killing the golden goose." Questions come flying like, "Why would you leave a perfectly good job? Don't you know that people will be disappointed? Who will do what you do? How will this great thing move on? 

Making room for the holy means letting go on all 3 levels. It's not just letting go of the bad. It's not just letting go of the good. It's that gut wrenching, fist clenching, mind racing, people disappointing decision to say "no" to something great. To create space for God to move. It's an ushering in of the Holy. 

This Christmas, maybe you are desiring to resign from some things...some bad, some good, some even (gulp) great. May you find this process of letting go one of creating room for God to move in. May you open the Inn of your heart and declare room for the Holy One to be born in your midst as you clear out space for His arrival. 

"Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." 

Isaiah 43:18-19



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Tribe (Adult Men)
Theme: Anger, Fear & Pain
Dates: Every week
Times: Thursdays @ 5:30-7:30pm

TRIBE is an open therapy group environment at Elbow Tree. This means that you can join the group at any time once you have met with Hayne face to face to ensure goodness of fit for both you and the group. 

TRIBE is extremely affordable at just $35 per session. *Individual therapy with Hayne is also available at normal practice rates.

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November 2015

September 2015
Soul Friendship

April 2015
Red Bag

March 2015:
Be Gentle

December 2014:
Holding Onto Hope

November 2014: 
The Power of a Tribe

October 2014: 
Speaking at Q Commons

September 2014:
Hearing & Listening

August 2014:

August 2013:
The Talk 

April 2013:
Resurrection Principle

March 2013:
Shame is Soul Crushing

December 2011:
Be Still & Know



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Noticing and navigating our way to teens in crisis; Self Harm, Suicide, Substance Abuse, Addiction, Bullying, Managing a Crisis, Mental Illness, Older Child Adoption, Adolescent Personality, Cracking the Code on Cliques, and more. 


Do you know someone who could use some time away to rest and recovery from the throws of a busy schedule? Feel free to share about The SoulCare Project with them. 

Date: Feb 19-21, 2015
Theme: Inside Job - Cultivating A Resilient Life
Facilitator: Steve & Gwen Smith, Author and Founder of Potters Inn
Venue: The Inn at Evins Mill


If you are looking for more in depth resources related to the topic of this month's newsletter, take a look at the books listed below. 

Good To Great
Jim Collins

With Open Hands
Henri Nouwen

Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial, and Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives
Richard Swenson
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