|A Holy Resignation
by Hayne Steen, MAMFT
I have recently been walking with a close friend through their decision to resign from a ministry they hold near and dear. It was not a decision forged on impulse but one of slow release, like the unclenching of a fist wrapped tightly around. It was a decision that was made in community. It was a slow reveal that the time had actually come to have that first conversation to follow through on what we had discerned was the wisest timing.
Letting go of good things, even great things, can be terribly frightening. Especially when our identity gets all wrapped up in the spokes of our work. Even more when we love what we are doing and who we are doing it with.
In Jim Collins' book, Good to Great, he spotlights how it is often not the bad or terrible things that keep us from greatness. It is in fact too many good things that keep us so severely distracted and overcommitted, and ultimately unable to make that pivot toward greatness.
The challenge, for my friend, is that they are letting go of some things on all three levels...some really bad and terrible stuff, a laundry list of good things...and a really great thing. We seem to appreciate the letting go of bad things. It is even possibly conceivable to let go of some good things. But letting go of a great thing? Who does that?
Letting go of a "great thing" may be seen by many as "killing the golden goose." Questions come flying like, "Why would you leave a perfectly good job? Don't you know that people will be disappointed? Who will do what you do? How will this great thing move on?
Making room for the holy means letting go on all 3 levels. It's not just letting go of the bad. It's not just letting go of the good. It's that gut wrenching, fist clenching, mind racing, people disappointing decision to say "no" to something great. To create space for God to move. It's an ushering in of the Holy.
This Christmas, maybe you are desiring to resign from some things...some bad, some good, some even (gulp) great. May you find this process of letting go one of creating room for God to move in. May you open the Inn of your heart and declare room for the Holy One to be born in your midst as you clear out space for His arrival.
"Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."
A GROUP FOR GUYS
Every guy needs a TRIBE. That's why I offer a unique group for guys called TRIBE.
Tribe (Adult Men)
Theme: Anger, Fear & Pain
Dates: Every week
Times: Thursdays @ 5:30-7:30pm
TRIBE is an open therapy group environment at Elbow Tree. This means that you can join the group at any time once you have met with Hayne face to face to ensure goodness of fit for both you and the group.
TRIBE is extremely affordable at just $35 per session. *Individual therapy with Hayne is also available at normal practice rates.
Noticing & Navigating Our Way To Teens In Crisis
Contemplative Parenting in the Digital Age
Holding Onto Hope
The Power of a Tribe
Speaking at Q Commons
Hearing & Listening
Shame is Soul Crushing
Be Still & Know