Mentoring News #12

This edition of Mentoring News highlights two new products I have recently developed (and a third that will be available soon) which are now available in my WebShop. The RESOLVES flipcard set and the D.E.V.A. for Mentees flipcard set are designed to provide your mentors and mentees with more tools to assist in their mentoring partnerships. There is also an article about change management and in a similar vein, a model for identifying what is holding you back from making changes you want and achieving your goals.


RESOLVES Flipcard Set  

As promised in the last Mentoring News edition, a new questioning flipcard set is now available in my WebShop.

The RESOLVES™ model is designed to help both the mentor and the mentee to handle the difficult conversations that can arise in the mentoring relationship. Not every mentoring conversation is an easy one; sometimes they can be uncomfortable and perplexing, for a whole range of reasons. Being equipped with strategies and tools to help you navigate these situations means preparing for the conversation, evaluating your perspective of the situation, knowing what questions to ask and entering the conversation with the intention to find a resolution.

Like the D.E.V.A.™ and 3Es Questioning Continuum™ flipcard sets, use these reference cards before and/or during a mentoring meeting to plan how you want to structure the session and decide which questions you want to ask. In this flipcard set you will find an explanation of each part of RESOLVES™, so that you can successfully manage the difficult conversation.

D.E.V.A. for the Mentee

And yes, another product hits the WebShop shelves. For a while now I have used the D.E.V.A.™ flipcards in my mentor training workshops, providing mentors with their own set so they can start using it in their mentoring meetings. I advocate strongly that asking good questions in the mentoring relationship is a fundamental skill of the mentor. I also think good questioning is important for the mentee; they just may be asking different types of questions.

Which made me realise that mentees will gain just as much benefit and use from having a D.E.V.A.™ flipcard set as well which they can refer to in preparation for mentoring meetings and situations that they want to manage........ and gain confidence in doing so by knowing what questions to ask their mentor.

You will find this a valuable tool to equip the mentees in your mentoring programme.

The Reality of Change - and how to manage it

Or in this context, how to help your mentee manage change occurring in their professional and/or personal life. Although change is a constant, some people don’t have the resilience to cope with it and end up withdrawing, getting physically or mentally ill, leaving a job when they can’t afford to – actions that are unhelpful and unhealthy.

There are numerous articles on this topic. For example, this article from the Harvard Business Review (HBR) describes 5 phases of change and offers some suggestions for alleviating people’s anxiety, helping them through resistance, and reaching buy-in. Many of the strategies suggested could be re-contextualised to the mentor assisting their mentee through the 5 phases of change:

Here is my take on a step by step strategy for successful individual change management which you can apply to assist others (and yourself). ADJUST represents 6 action steps that help a person work through a change process with the intention that by undertaking each action they will gradually feel empowered to become the change-instigator in their more

New Product Coming Soon: My Style Inventory

Getting the right mentor-mentee partnership match can sometimes be a challenge; I have talked about this aspect of a mentoring programme in a previous newsletter. Getting the partnership matching right has been a constant reflection for me as I work with organisations to establish effective mentoring programmes for their people development.

From feedback I have received over the years regarding a mentoring partnership that hasn’t worked, a consistent comment from both mentors and mentees has been a disconnect between the partners’ respective behaviour and communication style.

There are numerous personality profiling tools that you can use to try and get the best mentor-mentee match. I have developed my own, with the focus being on communication styles. My Style Inventory™ is designed for both the mentor and the mentee to complete. It comprises four-steps as follows: read more......


Moving Forward

I am a fan of Jack Canfield’s work, many years ago reading his book Chicken Soup for the Soul (he has since published many more ‘Chicken Soup’ books). I receive regular Jack Canfield blog posts and articles, some of them useful for my personal use and others directly relevant and attributable to mentoring.

Here is an exercise taken from Jack’s recent book The Success Principles, which he calls “Transforming your excuses into action”. I used this exercise to determine why I wasn’t completing tasks that would take me closer to realising my business goals. You could use this same exercise for your personal use or I think it makes for a great activity to incorporate in your mentoring conversations. For example, prompting your mentee to complete the exercise and use some meeting times to it talk through.

Here are the 4 steps Jack encourages people to more

"The best mentors are those who show the mentee where to look but don't tell them what to see"
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