January 2014 Newsletter for LifeNow Ministries

Why Can't You Just Stop It?

One of my favorite film clips is a scene where Bob Newhart is playing a psychologist listening to a patient describe her struggle with an unwanted behavior pattern.  Bob’s advise to her is “Stop it!”.  She is quite distressed at the simplicity of his answer and wants more so he expands his 2 word answer to a 10 word answer, “Stop it, or I’ll bury you alive in a box!”  Don’t you wish it were that easy?
Recently I had to step down from my pastorate because of a return to an addictive pattern of sexual activity.  Twenty years earlier I had experienced significant victory over this addiction.  In the years since I had been very involved in helping people who were addicted; counseling, leading retreats, teaching, preaching and mentoring.  Because of my choices, I lost my income, my insurance, many friends and my reputation in the community.  Did my behavior mean that I didn’t love God or believe the truths I was passing on to others?  Did it mean that I didn’t love my wife and children?  Absolutely not!  Why weren’t those things enough to keep me from giving in to the addiction?  Why would someone seemingly so intelligent and passionate do something so stupid?  Why couldn’t I just stop it!
If you know someone, a friend, family member, co-worker, who struggles with addiction of any kind, the question often comes up, “Why can’t they just stop it?”  Wives wonder why the love between them is not enough to make them stop.  Children are puzzled why they aren’t enough to end the addiction.  Church members can’t understand how being a part of the body of Christ doesn’t solve the problem.  Co-workers question why unemployment isn’t enough of a motivator and friends conclude that the addict just doesn’t really care about their friendship. 
The truth is that while the addictive behavior looks like the deepest desire of the addict, it really isn’t.  The deepest desire of our hearts is to love and to be loved.  It is what God created us for and it is what Jesus said when He was asked about the greatest commandment.  Ultimately only God can fill this need for love and give us the capacity to love. Because we are all born sinners, separated from God, we all seek to attach to someone who loves us.  In our formative relationships, we find some fulfillment for our need. 
For the person who struggles with addiction,  

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Choose Truth

One of the ways that Satan tries to defeat us is to attach our identity to sinful behaviors in our lives.  These lies are part of his strategy to keep us stuck in the past and to keep us from knowing the power of our true identity in Christ.  He knows that behavior flows from identity so if we really knew who we were, we would live out of that identity, powerfully manifesting Christ to the world around us.  Jesus said, "The truth will set you free" (John 8:32).  God's Word tells us the truth about who we really are.  As we meditate on that truth and cast down the lies of Satan, we experience the life God always intended.  Click here to watch a short video on your true identity.

Orphan Heart

God wants to be our Father.  For those who never felt loved by an earthly father, receiving the love of the Heavenly Father can be difficult.  It is easier to approach Him as our Lord and Master, serving Him but not really loving Him.  The Father loves us and He wants us to develop the heart of a Son which will displace the orphan heart.  Click here to read more about the difference between the heart of a son and an orphan heart. 

Meet Timothy

Timothy is an inmate in a State Prison in the Northeast United States.  He is in his 30's and is estranged from his wife and children.  After being incarcerated Timothy came to know the Lord and has become a true follower of Jesus Christ.  After finishing the Ten Life Choices Correspondence Course through Life Now Ministries, LifeNow sponsored Timothy to take 3 Bible courses through Berean School of the Bible Correspondence School.  Timothy is now writing Bible correspondence lessons for other inmates and plans to found a ministry to prisoners when he is released.  

God's Love

My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other. No one has seen God, ever. But if we love one another, God dwells deeply within us, and his love becomes complete in us—perfect love (I John 4:7-12, The Message)

New Board Member

LifeNow Ministries welcomes Michael Gaitonde to the Board of Directors.  Michael, known as Dr. Mike, is a chiropractor who owns and manages Lighthouse Chiropractic in Haymarket, VA.  Michael and his wife Emily are passionate about the message of choose life and we look forward to his input into the ministry.  
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Bob Perdue