This month's Newsletter is going to delve a bit into the concept (which is not a concept if you put it in practice), of staying a bit longer ... when things become uncomfortable.
If you can take words to where they are pointing, instead of just reading them as something that you will use at some other time, to see them as something that is being pointed to you right Now, in this moment that you find yourself in, then the ability to see something new and in different ways will appear.
When you become uncomfortable; stay in the "feeling" for as long as you can. As you begin to do this, each time it arises, you become more aware of uncomfortableness and a natural willingness to be in it will begin and the instinctual moving away from it will reside. At the same token, the more you stay in it, the more it will appear (for some time) to help it dissipate. In a sense you will begin to be tested and situations will arise for you to practice on.
This can begin right now.
Be uncomfortable and ...
Be willing for things to remain unresolved.
Be willing for all possibilities to exist.
Be willing to not know why things are happening.
Be willing to be wrong about what you think and feel.
Be willing not to fix anything.
Be willing to let go of a specific outcome.
Be willing to be surprised.
And just Be.
(Present, Present Moment, Be in It).
Uncomfortableness is with us the majority of the time, until it is gone through; processed. It is usually felt as a "tension" in the body, but it is actually a belief (believe it or not) and one that affects the body to make one aware of it. If you will, look and see what brings up something uncomfortable. It might be the way your body looks, or your intelligence, or gender, or you name it, most have something about themselves that they are uncomfortable with. Take a moment. Right now. Call up something into your Awareness that you have felt inadequate or uncomfortable with and sit with it. Let it reveal to you why it is there and let it in. It has been there as a protection, but it is one you no longer need.
As you do this, you will begin to get to the core of you. All the protection and distractions of uncomfortableness have been hiding what is at the core ... which is pure perfection, yet you will not know this until you begin to sit with what pulls you away from this knowing.
It's always easier to do things in theory, than when they actually arise. So how does one stay in the uncomfortableness when everything is saying get out of it ... run ... get away ... do something, anything.
One must be willing to sit through these kinds of feelings, thoughts, sensations and, in a sense, being willing to have your worst fears happen without trying to change anything, to sit without knowing what the outcome will be.
Nothing can be revealed until one is willing to do it. It is easy to say or read or intellectualize, but when the feelings and thoughts arise they are strong and will attempt to have you think more â€œpositiveâ€ thoughts or do something like put on the TV or play on the computer or eat or anything but just sit and let the experience have you.
You will know when it has run its course, if you have sat yourself down and said, â€œfear/uncomfortableness you can have me.â€ And mean it, you will know when it has run its course, it will be obvious to you that you are on the other side of fear, one where it is now your friend and a tool you use to overcome or welcome in, more fear/uncomfortableness. Then you will find that you stay in more and more situations that you normally would walk away from. You will trust more that you are always in the right moment.
This is not an easy task and you will probably fail quite frequently in the beginning and find yourself moving away from fear or attempting to change the situation as to not have to face it. But you will now be aware that you are doing that and it will serve you also.
Why would you want to stay in something that makes you uncomfortable? Do it and see and then share with someone, like it is now being shared with you ... to stay in the uncomfortableness so they can see what it is hiding.
If you were told what the outcome would be you wouldnâ€™t bother to do it, because you would â€œthinkâ€ you already know, but you do not, so face it and then reveal what is at the Core of you.