This is not something that was intellectually grasped at first. It has gradually grown, since that time, to become more and more obvious: words are not true (and usually just cause miscommunication). True Union and Communication is not through words because you have to use the filter (definitions) of what those words mean to you, to draw the picture of what someone is sharing with you (these pictures will not match ... one does not ever really know what the other is attempting to say, it may come close, but it will not be it). However, if the foundation is built on one of Love (which ultimately all foundations are) then words become secondary.
This deepened while spending about three years studying a book called â€œA Course in Miracles (ACIM
).â€ It actually helped in the beginning stages to see that words only had the meaning that were given to them. At the same time, a peculiar thing happened; studying this book strengthened another word â€¦ the word â€œI.â€
This was not obvious, at the time, because that word â€¦ the word â€œIâ€ has been so ingrained as absolute that there was no doubt of the existence of an â€œIâ€ and one that had to be â€œmodified,â€ â€œbrought under control,â€ â€œwhipped into shape.â€ The assumption that the â€œIâ€ thought exists is the only error (which it is not actually an error because how can you make an error out of something that is not) and that it is not perfect and needs to be fixed is the endless path to nowhere or Now Here. So one goes to work (or not) attempting to fix something that doesnâ€™t actually exist (hence a great Cosmic Joke).
ACIM can help to remove many blocks to oneâ€™s Awareness, however, at the same time, the entire foundation of the Course builds up and individual â€œIâ€ that is going to be saved. The good News is that all things Serve, and now it is easy to see if you pay attention and place that attention on what the thought â€œIâ€ appears IN (you do not need a book or any practice to do this). Just "Stop" everything, right Now. This momentary stoppage, will begin to subtly shift your Awareness from thoughts to Stillness.
Even if one checks out ACIM and goes down that path â€¦ no worries â€¦ just when you get to the height of your ego/I-Thought mania â€¦ the Teacher will arrive and chopped off your head (i.e., the â€œIâ€ thought). When the student is ready the Teacher appears.
Recently, while driving back from the coast there were a couple of hitchhikers waiting for a ride, there was barely room with Marma (a chicken) and Pete (a dog), however, they were able to squeeze in and we headed down the 199 towards Medford, OR. One of the two girls that got in had mentioned that she was always getting in trouble because of her mouth. So the assignment became one of her seeing if she could shut up for 5 minutes (she did real good and kept silent for quite some time). She whipped out a CD of a Native American Medicine Woman Chanting. We listened for a while, and at one point, a discussion about words arose. One of the words that brought up a lot of discomfort (because she couldnâ€™t stop saying it) was the word â€œnigger.â€
Letâ€™s take a moment to look at the word â€œniggerâ€ outside of race (because, ultimately, there is no such thing as a black, white, or a yellow person â€¦ you are not a certain â€œraceâ€ none of us are â€¦ however, that is an entirely different conversation, one that you can look at on your own â€¦ for it is said originally humans came from Africa or part of the earth where the sun made the human body a darker color, to protect it from burning) and we have lightened up in skin color, over time, as we moved around the world to colder climates where the sun doesn't shine as much and the skin needs less protection.
In the not so distant past, the word "nigger" has been given a lot of meaning and has been linked with being black, or of color, and was considered a racial slur used by people that were white to degrade those of color and the irony is that the ones that were using the word at that time (mostly white people), actually represented what the word meant (we donâ€™t often see the mirror or the hypocrisy that we are reflected in). To this day it still seems to have quite a bit of juice (though less and less because it is so frequently used now by people, not in a derogatory way, but as a term of endearment
); so it is as good an example as the word â€œIâ€ to look at what we give meaning to and why. If one investigates this fully â€¦ neither the word â€œniggerâ€ or the word â€œIâ€ won't mean anything at all and then you come from the Space behind the words (remove the blocks to knowing who you are Are).
Back to the Hitchhikers; so she couldnâ€™t stop saying the word â€œniggerâ€ and it was making her feel guilty and we began a conversation about how words donâ€™t actually mean anything, but that the energy they are carried on can cause people to think that they do. Like the Medicine Woman chanting on the CD, we put it back on and the conversation arose that she could be chanting the word â€œniggerâ€ over and over (for all we knew) in her Native American language and we all laughed because it was true â€¦ she could have been saying the word â€œniggerâ€ or any other word because we did not speak her tongue to understand what she was saying. However in her chanting â€¦ the energy that she was using was not mean or angry; it was intense, but you could sense there was not an intention to hurt anyone, they were just sounds (words) used in a way to let the energy out (specifically, in this case, healing energy).
There has been so much meaning given to words that we can hardly speak anymore without someone being offended (look for WHO is offended) and yet, all one has to do is begin to Listen (with a capital L) to the energy. We have given so much meaning to words, it is as if the words are real, but words are not real, they are just letters put together with sounds and we use other letters put together with sounds to describe the other sounds we are making (how weird is that!!!) And here one is using letters to make words to say all this; which is also quite funny.
If you want to laugh or possibly begin to lighten up around the word â€œnigger
â€ click on link of a skit Dave Chappelle
, a Comedy skit he did quite a while back in his career, it is very good pointing in making light of beliefs that are no longer serving us and for helping one to laughing at our ignorance. This Newsletter and NTL are not promoting the use of this word (though it may seem to the contrary). The words is being pointed to as just another word that we have given to much meaning to. If you use words to hurt another, you might want to look at why it is that you do that and in that discovery, you may begin to realize compassion when someone comes to you with words to hurt or inflict pain. You may begin to not react so quickly to the words but begin to actually Hear what the person is saying to you, which is usually "I'm hurting," even though they want to hurt you). Compassion breeds compassion.
shared on Oprah
an enlightening interview about how rap has been one of the biggest movements in abolishing both racism and the word "nigger." She asked him why he uses that word so much and he shared that rap is over-using the word to take the power (energy) out of it. This can be done in many ways and possibly the reading of this Newsletter will be one of them.
There are so many ways to begin to see words for what they are if you go for a job interview for a position as a Relay Operator for the Deaf and Hard of Hearing, they require you to verbally say words that are listed as profane and vulgar to get the job. One of the words on the list is â€œnigger," along with many other words that the masses consider inappropriate language. The reason they require these words to be spoken is to see if you are able to become an empty vessel for the people using the Service. You have to be able to relay the conversation as it is, not how you want it to be. You are not allowed the ability to say only words you are comfortable with, if you did, it would take away from the conversation and your job is to be transparent in it. This is a great training in desensitization of words.
So for this monthâ€™s assignment (if you are willing), begin to pay attention to the words that you hear, and how they affect you, especially when you hear yourself saying â€œI.â€ Pay attention to that word because that word is the ultimate lie and as you begin to Know this in ways that you canâ€™t explainâ€¦then you will know that you are getting it. It canâ€™t be explained with words, but it can be pointed towards by them.