Health, Environment, Negotiation

Welcome to HEN - promoting compassion 
for self (Health), our Environment, and each other (Negotiation).

HEN is published each month by Julia Menard:
Helping Leaders Engage - One Tough Conversation at a Time!

HEN arrives at the full moon - because in the light.....there's no darkness.   
Full Moon: July 3, 2012 - Year 10, Issue 7
Table of Contents:


“I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.”   … Maya Angelou
Traditionally, the summer issues of HEN are my time to replenish - where content is slim and rest time is large.
This summer, I will be going back to my hometown – Montreal. I’ll be hanging out with my Mom, my brother, friends and hopefully some old high school chums.
How you define “home” as important.
Recently, a friend of mine was going “home” to an empty house and commented on how lonely it felt.
Have you ever felt that feeling facing an empty house?
Is that home?
Looking up the original meaning of the word “home” yields some insights. Home is originally from both the Old English and Greek – and means “village”. This accounts for a secondary definition of home as “the place where one’s ancestors dwell or dwelt.”
Village as a word has ties to the word “tribe.”
If you locate your home in your village or tribe – who is that? How do you define your village, tribe, or home? Where is home for you?
How do you find your sense of home?
Here is a quote from last month’s HEN – where Stephen Jenkinson attempts to define that question:
"A village can’t be made from not wanting to be alone, but from service. A village person is a servant first, one who can after great learning say, 'These are my people. Here I am at home.'"    … Stephen Jenkinson

Can my home be where my heart is ... in you?


Local WORKSHOPS in Victoria on Tough Conversations:
Available for organizations in Victoria, B.C. in 1/2 day or full day formats.

  • Does conflict make you break out in a sweat?
  • When it doesn’t go well, can you feel a tension so thick you can cut it with a knife?
Most people loathe conflict.  I know - I used to be one of them!

But, through years of practice, and study, and working in the field as a professional mediator, trainer and conflict coach – I’ve seen the power in conflict – both to damage and enhance relationship.
It’s all in how you approach it!

Tough Conversation Workshops host a maximum of six guests at a time, and I pride myself on creating a learning experience that is relaxed, safe, and relevant. Whether it's sharing self-management tips, discussing hot button issues or describing how to bring up a tough topic, there's no shortage of conversation topics.
Most importantly, this workshop offers a practical model for how to start and sustain a collaborative conversation. It incorporates interpersonal communication concepts from Interest-based Negotiation, Non-Violent Communication, and Clear Leadership.

Topics include:

  • Getting Out of Your Own Way
  • Separating Fact from Fiction
  • Linking Feelings to Needs

Some of my favourite clients are managers and other people-oriented leaders who value relationships highly and have figured out if they put attention into their
relationships, they will get big dividends out!
In fact, managers spend 25 percent to 40 percent of their time attempting to resolve conflict (Washington Business Journal) - yet most leaders receive minimal - or no - training on how to resolve conflicts collaboratively.
If you'd like to enrich some of your relationships at work - whether with peers, clients, or your own boss, consider coaching.  I would love to support you in strengthening your key relationships at work.

If you would like to set up a time to talk about your needs in this area, just email me with "Coaching" in the subject line.

“Nature is not a place to visit, it is home."   … Gary Snyder


Making Tough Conversations Great!
10 week self-study course with Facebook Group Community
COST: $95 (+HST)

If you are not located in Victoria and would still like to learn more about making tough conversations great, check out this e-course which is delivered directly to your in-box every week for 10 weeks.
If you’ve got some knowledge of how to make a tough conversation great and are looking for a refresher, this course is for you as well!
Just like the face-to-face workshops, the topics in this e-course include:
  • Focusing on your Best Intentions for your Tough Conversation
  • Leading with Observations (Separating Fact from Fiction)
  • Linking feelings to Needs
  • Converting resistance (Winning Yourself a Hearing!)
  • Deferring solutions to the end 
Each week, you will receive a new lesson via email.  Each lesson is short and to the point  - with reflective questions and meaningful actions each week.
There is also a private online coaching group, where you can ask me questions, engage in discussions, share your struggles, and celebrate your successes!
To get going on this course, just email me and ask, or register online.


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Julia Menard, B.A., Cert. Con. Res., P.C.C.
Leadership & Conflict Coaching, Mediating, & Training


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