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HEN arrives at the full moon -
because light transforms darkness.
Full Moon: August 21, 2013 - Year 11, Issue 8
Table of Contents:
Power & Truth
Traditionally, the two summertime issues of HEN are my time to replenish – where I keep content slim and rest time large. So here is my short reflection!
Over this last month, I've been immersed in teaching in the Conflict Management and Analysis program at a local University. It was an exquisite and rewarding experience that involved working with talented, wise, mid-career professionals who taught me as much, I hope, as I taught them.
The experience left me with a new sense of what it means to enact “power” and see “truth.” There seemed to be a symbiotic relationship going on where the students called forth in me a place I didn’t know existed – as perhaps I did with them and they did for each other. At one point, someone mentioned the power in being seen as bigger than they usually see themselves. That happened for me as well.
That is a gift. Because, as some of my learned friends are teaching me, truth is not something I have or you have or even we have exclusively. Truth is a shape-shifting reality, a stream of possibilities, that is impacted by me, you and our inter-subjective truth.
I want to leave you with this poem as a way to sum up my summertime experience. My wish is that you find a gem hidden in there for you as well.
Proviso: going “gemming” (thank you Jill for this new word) - requires you to slow down to the speed of summer. You can do this by taking a few deep breaths (exhaling longer than you inhale). Or press your feet firmly onto the ground. Or make a cup of tea and settle into the chair. Smell the summer air as it hints at a turning. A poem awaits you.
And, like any rich experience – you will only see what you are opening yourself up to see. The best way to absorb is in a state of relaxation, fluidity, sensuality (as in being connected to your senses). These are gifts I hope you’re also receiving from your summertime experiences.
See you in September!
Poetics - A.R. Ammons
I look for the way
things will turn
out spiralling from a center,
things will take to come forth in
so that the birch tree white
touched black at branches
will stand out
totally its apparent self:
I look for the forms
things want to come as
from what black wells of possibility,
how a thing will
not the shape on paper - though
that, too -
but the uninterfering means on paper:
not so much looking for the shape
as being available
to any shape that may be
from the self not mine but ours.
Free Report: 3 tips to make Tough Conversations Great!
This summer, I asked HEN readers to respond to a few questions about where they struggled in tough conversations, what outcome they wanted, and what burning questions they had.
In the course of doing these interviews, one person said they’d love to have two or three things that could help them immediately with a tough conversation.
In response - and as a thank you – I’ve created a free report containing some of my best tips arising as a result of people’s burning questions!
If you’d like a copy, simply click here.
Feel free to pass this along to your friends as well!
Happy summer reading!
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Julia Menard, B.A., Cert. Con. Res., P.C.C.
Leadership & Conflict Coaching, Mediating, & Training
“The conductor of an orchestra doesn't make a sound. He depends for his power on his ability to make other people powerful.… I realized my job [as a conductor] was to awaken possibility in other people.”
… Benjamin Zander, The Art of Possibility