Starting Over or Building on My Foundation

A new year. A new beginning. That is what the new year represents to many. It’s an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and start over. I subscribe to the belief that I have had many new beginnings in my life. I had a new beginning when I left home and went to college initially. I had a new beginning when I decided to leave the teaching profession as my career to study life  Nancy Kalina
coaching with Martha Beck. I also had a new beginning when I chose to take my first yoga class or when I chose to begin meditating daily. Some beginnings are larger than others. However, they are all significant. I would also like to point out that all my beginnings mentioned above did not happen on January 1.

I like to think that I am ever evolving and always growing, so the concept of starting over does not work for me. I like to think that I am forever creating this being that I inhabit as long as I am here. I have always aspired to be the best person that I can be, and for me that means forever challenging myself to try new things, setting goals for things I truly desire and frequently practicing my new ways of being in the world.

One concept that has come into my consciousness repeatedly is that of slowing down and being present. I am a person who appears to be hardwired to be productive all the time. I come from a workaholic father, so perhaps that explains some of this need. However, hardwired or not, I am on a mission to challenge a couple notions here. The first notion is that “I am only productive if I am actively engaged in an activity.” I have learned through my life coaching that this is false. The body does require time to rest. Research shows that people do learn efficiently and with ease when they are relaxed and well rested. The same can be said to be true about a person being productive. I personally find tremendous success, creativity and bursts of productivity that feel effortless when I have just allowed myself a break from “working.” For example, when I recently went on vacation, I broke all ties with technology and clients, etc. I gave myself a rest and my developing business a well-deserved breather. On the plane ride and on the beach, I effortlessly created a number of writings that I would use in my practice. My partner said to me, “Why are you working?” I smiled and replied that I was not “working.” I was playing. I love to write. I have kept journals for a good portion of my life. Therefore, I was writing out of sheer pleasure. The fact that I got to share my writings with you fine folks is a simple bonus.

The second belief that I would like to challenge in my personal life is the notion that I must adhere to the rhythms of the world and do everything faster. I believe that the world, with a few exceptions, is obsessed with time. Currently, I have an old-fashioned cell phone without voice mail. I do have a landline with an answering machine. I do not have an iPhone, an iPad or an iPod. I cannot access the Internet anytime I desire. Nor do I desire to be this accessible to the world. I am perfectly thrilled to lead a life with boundaries. I love my time with people, clients, friends and relatives. I very much feel connected to the planet and its inhabitants. However, I also like to have a choice about when I engage with people. I like choosing to drive without the distraction of talking to someone on the phone. I feel that I notice, observe and appreciate life and nature all around me much more when I choose to be present, in the moment and not distracted from a world that is, in my opinion, going too fast for itself to keep up with.

So, I do want to work on growth in a number of areas. However, the areas where I will be spending an abundance of energy will be on resting, slowing down and being more present in life. This means that I will be decreasing that amount of time I spend multitasking! In the book “In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed” by Carl Honoré, the author quotes Carlo Petrini, the founder of Slow Food: “Being slow means that you control the rhythms of your own life. You decide how fast you have to go in any given context. If today I want to go fast, I go fast; if tomorrow I want to go slow, I go slow. What we are fighting for is the right to determine our own tempos.” As I read this book and take in all that it has to offer, I find myself incredibly drawn to the Slow Movement, which expands upon the Slow Food concept to embrace doing everything, not just food, at the right speed. So, I am stating it here: I am choosing to be a new member of the Slow Movement.

Along the same lines as choosing my own tempo day by day and hour by hour, joining the Slow Movement means that I will be listening to my body more. I want to let it tell me when it wants to be productive and creative. Likewise, I want to listen and honor it when it says it desires to rest! I subscribe to the belief that when I am listening to and respecting my body, I am a more joyful, productive and successful person.


Sharing Corner

It seems only natural that the first thing I should share is my current read. I am reading this with my partner and we are loving it. It is called, “In Praise of Slowness: Challenging the Cult of Speed,” by Carl Honoré. Here is a link for the book. I am also including a link to a website about Carl Honoré so that you can explore more.

Just a Reminder...

CARING FOR THE CAREGIVER will be starting again in January 2013! So, Wake Up the Vibrant, Sexy and Alive YOU with Global Dance Movement & Personal Life Coaching!

One-day Teaser classes will be offered this time on Saturday, Jan. 5, and Saturday, Jan. 12, 2013.

  • Both classes will be offered from 1 to 3 p.m.
  • Both classes will only be $40 each

Full four-day Caring for the Caregiver Workshop will be offered on the following Saturdays…
  Jan. 19
  Jan. 26
  Feb. 2
  Feb. 9

  • This four-class workshop will also be held from 1 to 3 p.m.
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  • Register with a buddy and both you and the buddy will receive a 10% discount
Teasers and Workshop will be held at Vibe Yoga Studio, located at 1705 N. College Ave.

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I love sea turtles. I was fortunate enough to be able to swim with some on my last vacation to Hawaii. They are just incredible. They are majestic. They are one of the world’s most ancient creatures. The seven species that can be found today have been around for 110 million years. They strike me as incredibly wise. After all, look how long they have survived — 110 million years says something.

I am also sharing a picture of a bookmark from a company called Your True Nature. I stumbled upon this company in my visits to the National Parks. I discovered their products and truly was inspired by their creations. Your True Nature as a company takes nature’s advice to heart … and they share that advice with the world through their creations. Here is a sample of one of their products.

Advice from a Sea Turtle

Advise from a Sea Turtle

  • Swim with the Current
  • Be a Good Navigator
  • Stay Calm Under Pressure
  • Be Well Traveled
  • Think Long Term
  • Age Gracefully
  • Spend Time at the Beach!

— Ilan Shamir


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