Show the World Your Peacock!

PeacockKaty Perry wrote and sings the song “Peacock.” When I first heard this song, I immediately fell in love with it. Before any of you think this is a sexual innuendo, let me explain my intention and how I interpret Katy Perry’s intention. I believe that Katy is boldly stating how every person is truly beautiful when they are living their lives from a place of honesty and authenticity. Due to the fact that I agree with Katy Perry, I too am using the word peacock to be a metaphor for your innermost self that is fabulous! I think we as human beings are absolutely gorgeous when we are vulnerable and sharing ourselves from a very sincere place.

As I have stated in previous e-newsletters, specifically “Dare to Live Your Truth,” it is always a big deal when people speak their truths. It is an even bigger deal when people live their truths. Living one’s truth means having the courage to be exactly who you are without apology. The issue for many of us is that we tend to hide who we genuinely are. Many times we do this in an attempt to “fit in.”

Recently, I was reminded how important it is to intimately know your “peacock” and to share it with the world. On June 25, Federal Judge Richard L. Young overturned the ban on same sex marriage in the state of Indiana, which happens to be my home state. This was a day full of joy and exuberance for so many gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender (GLBT) folks as well as our allies across the globe. As many of you may have heard, there were hundreds if not thousands of people across the state of Indiana who rushed to their county clerks’ offices to get now-legal marriage licenses. My partner and I were among the masses. My partner and I live our lives out and proud. In the past, we have both hidden our inner beauty. We were fearful of not fitting in. I have been fearful of not being accepted by family, friends and the community at large. At some point in my life, I realized that living my life for other people did not make me happy. Living the life that I believe I was born to live provides me much love and authenticity as well as a tremendous sense of well-being.

We all have peacocks inside of us. I believe that each person on the planet has two selves. We have an essential self — our peacock — that, when left to express itself, is full of love, beauty and magnificence. We also have a social self that does not possess our pure radiance. Our social self is interested in playing by the rules. It wants to be accepted and liked by everyone else on the planet. Our social self is more concerned with making others happy than creating a life that makes our very own heart sing.

I have listened to Marianne Williamson on audiotapes state that it is theorized that peacocks have a trait that they are willing to eat thorns when food is scarce. Apparently, there are folks who believe that this practice of eating thorns is a large factor as to why peacocks have such beautiful feathers. I am not a scientist and I don’t know if this is true or not. However, I think the metaphor is fantastic. Ideally, the lesson here is that in order to be dazzlingly exquisite, we may want to experience and feel comfortable with connecting with some of the “thorns” in our lives. Thorns can be anything and all things that are the make-up of you. They are our fears, passions, preferences, desires, idiosyncrasies and all of our imperfections.

My trials and my successes, my differences from others as well as my oneness with others have forged my own beautiful inner peacock. My very personal peacock is magnificent because it is the sum total of me and my life. I must choose whether or not to show the world this magnificence. I personally have found remarkable peace with owning and sharing my peacock. I am proud of who I am and I love who I am. I can think of no better place to be than in a place where I am comfortable and at home with myself.

Are you brave enough to show your peacock?

What’s getting in your way from being exactly who you are?

Also, if you want some support as you jump on the path to befriend your personal peacock, please feel free to reach out to me. I would love to support you on your journey!


Sharing Corner

It seems only right that Katy Perry be part of this e-newsletter. Interestingly, I recently heard Perry in an interview say that her vulnerability is her greatest weapon. Just more proof that the scars from all our experiences create the beauty that is us. However, they can only be beautiful if we own and reveal them. Thank you, Katy Perry!

I am also sharing Perry’s “Firework” song. I love this video because I think it so clearly expresses that there is a beauty within all of us, regardless of our race, religion, sexual orientation, size of our body . . . whether we are Republican or Democrat, disabled or nondisabled. We all have an inner self that is absolutely gorgeous!



I have recently discovered Albert Camus. I don’t know a lot about him, but his words are already inspiring me. I hope that they inspire you.

To be happy we must not be too concerned with others


Until next time,

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