(We are hoping to send out summaries of the reading from the Meaning of Marriage book especially for those of you who don't have the time to keep up with all the reading. We will also be posting them on Facebook and Insta.
For the married couples, please take some time to go over the Marriage Plan. It is the practical part of the study that will help you apply what we learn.)
Chapter 3 The Essence of Marriage pg 79-89 in a nutshell:
if you believe that romantic love is essential in order to have a full life but it almost never lasts, then you will conclude it doesn't make sense to make a life long commitment to someone when it is inevitable the romantic joy will fade.
The basis for sex outside of marriage is to entice or impress someone which creates a "thrill of the hunt". This emotional thrill is often mistaken for love. This isn't the only thrill to be had, nor is it the best. Sex in marriage is done to give joy rather than to impress, it is barefaced rejoicing in one another. The thrill is a life long journey of giving one another pleasure that no one else can give.
The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacrificial commitment to the good of the other. Biblical marriage unites feeling and duty, passion and promise. At the heart of biblical marriage is the covenant. Consumer relationships make individual needs more important than the relationship. In a covenant based marriage the couple makes vows to God and then to each other.
Instead of using one another, when two people love one another they want the assurance of an enduring commitment.