TCOY = Take Care of You

Self-Sabotaging or Self-Fulfilling
It’s great to reach an age where you finally know what you want to be, and that what you want to be is you!  I love that quote and want others to embrace it whole-hardheartedly.

One of the most challenging pursuits we undertake in life is finding and listening to our inner voice, which I believe provides the best direction for what we should do in life.  I’m not talking about hearing voices, I’m referring to our self-talk and the spirit within us.  Unfortunately, we often ignore our inner voice and allow our joy to be taken away by fear, doubt and worry.

I have learned that we typically find what we focus on.  If you are focusing on the storm, you will remain within the storm.  Although the storm may stop periodically, the pattern will repeat itself if you choose not to change your focus. 

If you continually dwell on what happened in the past and what you expect to continue or repeat, you will likely self-sabotage even the best situations.

The words “what if” can either be full of excitement and adventure or doubt, fear and resentment.  The same amount of energy is expended; however, the direction in which the energy flows will determine the outcome.

During my life, I’ve chosen to cling to what I feel is my calling in life.  I’m passionate about health, wellness, coaching and serving others. Even when times were tough and other opportunities presented themselves, it made me anxious and uncomfortable to settle

We aren’t given the dream without the ability to make it happen, so if we stay the course and believe we can accomplish our goals. There are many opportunities in life but only a few callings. 

The question we all need to ask ourselves is this – “am I willing to sacrifice now in order to have what I really desire later?”

Starting a quest is only the first step; the hard part is getting back up after many falls and setbacks.

If you’re tired of starting over, stop quitting, just keep going.  You’ve made progress, so refuse to let fear win. Visualize what you want whether it is learning something new, quitting a bad habit or working on a relationship.  Stop filling your mind with negative self-talk and start talking to yourself with positive affirmations and visualize the life you want.

For many years I prayed about and visualized what I wanted my future to look like.  Personally, I believe prayers are always answered. There are three answers; yes, no or not yet.  Not yet requires a lot of patience; something most of us need to work to improve. 

Last year, my vision took me out of state for a job. I rented my home to someone but have recently returned to it and found that a lot of work needed to be done.  I have a real empathy now for families living in a home during remodeling.  Everything takes time, money and patience, but I’m here to say the end result brings much joy. 

You have to hold on to the end vision when going through the process of changing something. This is true with any change in your life and change is inevitable. 

It is to your advantage to learn to be flexible so you can bend instead of breaking.

How flexible are you when it comes to change?  Do you feel its impact on your outlook, your relationships and your health? 

In the “Texting Harry” YouTube clip, Connie Podesta shares how a Grandfather altered his self-sabotaging relationship with his grandson when he opened up and stepped outside his comfort zone.

If you find yourself overwhelmed with fears loss, insecurity and loneliness, it's easy to isolate yourself but I encourage you take the bold step to reach out to someone and talk to them. The shadows of fear try to rob us of joy and life.  Know that everyone deals with fear.  How you choose to respond to your fears will be the difference between self-sabotage and self-fulfillment. 

Rise up as a warrior.  The past helped shape you but it does not define you.  Create new environments by surrounding yourself with positive affirmations, music and people.  

Take life one day at a time and be kind to yourself as you chart a new path to a healthier and happy you.

Casting Crowns recently released song, Just Be Held is one that can bring comfort during challenging times.

TCOY = Take Care of You

Coach Lucy
TEDx Beacon Street video.  Do What You Like, Like What You Do.  Bert Jacobs (Co-founder of “Life Is Good”)
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TCOY Tidbits...


If you can't figure out your purpose, figure out your passion.  For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.    ~ J.D. Takes

Stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself.  Self talk is a powerful influence.  Choose your thoughts and self-talk wisely.  ~Coach Lucy

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year...this new day is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment in the yesterdays.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life's tragedy is that we get too old too soon and wise to late.  ~ Ben Franklin

Focus on what is right with your life rather than what is wrong to bring more joy into your life.  Unknown


Strength from Scripture: 

If God is for us,
who can be against us.

Romans 8:31

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD,
“plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11


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