Even as I sat down to write this month’s newsletter I started over thinking the title and content; thus confirming I could be a member of my fictitious club, "Over Thinkers Anonymous."
Unlike a True or False Test, life more closely resembles a multiple choice format. Options can range from none of the above
to a combination of two or more of the options, or all the above
options. Our lives today are filled with many choices. , We make over 35,000 decisions in a single day - 35,000
! In contrast, young children only make about 3,000
decisions each day. Imagine how exhausting this is psychologically, physically and emotionally on your body.
Fear of making the wrong choice can cause anxiety, which can often lead to procrastination or resistance to making a decision. However, not making a choice is a choice. If you don't make a choice someone else will make it for you and you may not like the consequences.
It is human nature to resist doing things we don't like to do or being put into a situation that makes us feel uncomfortable or inferior. An area I over-think or put off would include preparing tax returns or filling out lengthy application forms. I applied to refinance my home recently to get a lower interest rate. As I began to realize that my procrastination was costing me a significant amount of money each month.
Typically in areas where one lacks experience and expertise, the fallback is over-thinking and being overwhelmed. Therefore, I reached out to a qualified source and asked for help with the process and found the process was much simpler than I anticipated. I was able to complete and submit the application that week.
Instead of causing more anxiety, just make a choice, take action and go on from there with confidence. Let me preface this by stating, I know it's important to gather information, analyze it and compare options
, but every single choice does not need to drain your energy. Be mindful of the times when emotions and fear paralyze the decision making process, like my home refinance scenario. Ask for help in those situations where you lack experience or expertise. We all bring different gifts to the table and can help one another. I’m a huge fan of teamwork!
There's an old African proverb that says “If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”
The thought process of overthinking tends to magnify the problem or fear. One of my favorite books on this subject is, Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
. This little book can dramatically change your life. Check it out to learn ways YOU CAN “feel the fear and do it anyway!”
Is there something you have put off doing? How could addressing this issue reduce stress and improve your life? In January, a chalkboard was placed in the middle of New York City asking passersby to write down their biggest regrets. As the board filled up the responses had one alarming thing in common. The biggest regret was things NOT done, NOT spoken or NOT pursued.
Maybe you need to have a conversation to improve a relationship at home or work. Perhaps you need to start prioritizing your health by choosing not to be overwhelmed by perfection in your diet or workout, but simply to begin and enhance it each day. It could be to spend some time each day to relax and take care of you. It could be starting a budget to improve your financial status.
The psychological profiling test by Myer Briggs has a specific section regarding decision making. Knowing whether you and those in your life are a Judger or Perceiver
provides insight into yourself and others when it is time to make a decision. Some people are born with the gift of making quick decisions while others struggle. If you struggle in a certain area, surround yourself with family, friends or outside resources to help provide support in those areas of your life.
In a world with endless demands on your time and thousands of choices throughout the day, there has never been a better time to begin to simplify your life. Less can be more. Your mind and body will thank you and there will be a multitude of health benefits.
Action is Required! Be empowered and take action. Stop over thinking, it’s robbing your energy.
Until next month,
TCOY = Take Care of You