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C.U.S.P. Newsletter, informative news and notes for Single Parents.
C.U.S.P. (Commited to Uplifting Single Parents)

C.U.S.P. Newsletter

Our Mission: It is our mission to empower and assist single parents with the difficult challenges of parenthood through a range of financial and social services which will allow them to provide safe and loving homes for their children. 

About Us: C.U.S.P. (Committed to Uplifting Single Parents) a  501(c)(3) nonprofit organization providing connections to resources, social services and wealth building programs for single-parent families in the Los Angeles area and its surrounding communities.  
                    
 
  
 

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Help Your Child Develop Good Judgment

     
Many adults are crippled with indecision when faced with difficult choices. Others, worse yet, make self-destructive choices and repeatedly demonstrate poor judgment. But no one is born with good judgment and the ability to make wise decisions. Good judgment and decision-making skills develop from experience combined with reflection. As one sage noted, "Judgment develops from experience. Good judgment develops from bad experience."                   

 

Your goal is to give your child experience in making decisions and make sure your child has the opportunity to reflect on them and learn. You also want to raise a child who feels good about herself, so that she takes pleasure in making good decisions, rather than bad ones. Research shows that kids who've been treated less than kindly get used to feeling bad, so as teens and adults they make decisions that make them feel bad.

How can you help your child develop good judgment?

 

1. Practice makes perfect.

Give your child practice making choices even before she begins talking and she'll never have a problem making decisions. Who cares if the stripes and flowers clash? She thinks she looks like a rainbow. And if other people can’t figure out that she dressed, you don’t really care about their opinion of your parenting, do you?

 

2. Be clear about your child span of control.

Emphasize what your child has the right to make decisions about, and what areas you as the parent retain the right to exert control over.

With toddlers:

Yes, I guess you may wear your superman outfit again, although you’ve worn it every day this week. You’re in charge of your own clothes. But you’ll need to change before we go to services because there we dress up to show respect. And you’ll need to brush your teeth. Do you want to do it now or before we leave the house?”

With preteens:

"You can invite your friends for Friday night dinner if you want, but you're expected to have dinner with the family on Friday night as usual. You can either go to the movies with your friends after dinner on Friday, or on Saturday."

 

3. Consciously help your child develop good judgment by reflecting with him.

Many people never develop good judgment because their experience isn't accompanied by reflection. Help your child to make decisions consciously (“How will you decide what piece to play for the recital?”) and to think through the possible repercussions of various choices before he makes them (“I wonder if you’ll feel too pressured about getting your homework done if you choose such a hard piece to master.”)

Just as important, offer your child the opportunity to reflect on how his decisions worked out (“I know you worked hard preparing for the recital. Are you glad you chose that music?”)

 

4. Model the process of decision making.

Share how and why you make decisions from the time your child is tiny:

  • "I think I'll bring an umbrella on our walk. It looks like rain."  
  • "I’m going to try the salmon; it's really good for you." 
  • “I’d like our family to help with the drive for school supplies; all children deserve a good education, and this is one way to help."


5. Give your children control of their own decision-making as it becomes age appropriate.

What's age appropriate? Check out the list of age-appropriate responsibilities on this page:


How to Raise a Responsible Child


 

6. Expect your child to make some bad decisions.

He's still learning about himself as well as about life. It's just more opportunity for reflection and the development of good judgment, as long as you help him consider afterward how things could have been different if he had made different choices.


Great questions to ask your child:

  • "Is there some part of you that thought maybe that wasn't such a good idea?"
  • "What kept you from listening to that part of yourself?" 
  • "I wonder what you could do now to make things better?"


Teens have more decision-making latitude, and they're bound to make some bad decisions. Just try to resist the universal impulse to say “I told you so,” and they'll learn from them.

 

 

 


In accordance with our mission to provide you with the best in support services, we are very excited to tell you that C.U.S.P. has partnered with Apprisen.


, a professional provider of financial counseling who has serviced families all across the United States for nearly 60 years. Apprisen's mission is to help people improve their financial well-being through counseling, community outreach, and financial education.
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C.U.S.P. continues to strive to connect you with resources that allow you to live YOUR BEST LIFE! We are happy to have these partnerships and look forward to your success. 


 

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Inner City Youth Empowerment (ICYE): A youth empowerment initiative of C.U.S.P. Inc. a 501c3 nonprofit organization based in Los Angeles, CA. ICYE utilizes a variety of strategies to engage youth and young adults ages 12-25. ICYE will provide classes, seminars, conference, and collaborate with other community organizations on programs and events. We will also share tools, tips, and resources.

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Applications are being accepted now, until October 30! Visit: www.EducateOurMen.org for complete details!



 
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