How to deal with the A-word: Anxiety
Diana Antholis
"The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do." - Wayne Dyer 


What an ugly word. 

We all had and/or have it. 

What is it, though? We say we feel anxious, but what does that mean?

It's not an emotion or feeling. It's a COVER emotion. 

That means it's covering up something else you're feeling; fear, anger, and sadness being the main culprits. 

But because dealing directly with the fear, anger, and sadness we are experiencing is not fun at all, our brains try to cover it up and pretend like everything is okay. 

Here's a newsflash: Everything is NOT okay if you are feeling anxious. 
  • Maybe you're scared you will never find a new job.
  • Maybe you're angry at your friend for treating you like crap.
  • Maybe your relationship is unhealthy and you are trying to salvage it but you're sad and scared because you know it's over.
  • Maybe a family member is sick and you're scared and sad for what may happen next.
  • Maybe your child is halfway across the world and you fear any possible situation could happen to him.

How can you calm yourself down and start feeling like yourself again?

Recognize that all those fears, all that anger, and all that sadness are simply thoughts that are going through your head. Ask yourself if any of those thoughts are true. Question them.
  • Will you find a new job? Yes. It may take time, but it will happen. You are a rock star. Stay positive.
  • Can you talk to your friend and tell him how you feel while having an adult conversation? Yes.
  • Will you find someone else to be your partner in life who will make you happy and have an easy, loving relationship? Yes. Yes. Yes.
  • Will worrying about your family member change or help the sickness? No. Enjoy each day with them while they're still here.
  • Will worrying about your child make him any more safe? No. Let it go. He's happy and healthy now.

Think about yourself in this very moment. Stay in this moment. How are you doing? Do you have a ton of thoughts going through your head? Is worrying about them right now helping your situation at all?

I didn't think so. 

Yes, we have worries, fears, and anger. Yes, those thoughts will consume us from time to time. But if you live your life being constantly consumed by things that haven't happened, things you have made up, or avoiding situations that are obviously making you unhappy because you are too scared to do something about it, then you aren't living at all.

Find out what's making you anxious. Ask yourself what it is. Confront yourself on it - is it important? is it true? is it time to make a decision you've been avoiding?

Reply to me and let me know how you did. If you need help, reply to this email and I'll walk you through a particular situation in your life.

I used to let "anxiety" and "stress" overwhelm my life. As soon as I figured out what I was scared of, nervous about, or angry over, I was able to let it go and actually LIVE. I still use this formula whenever I start to feel those feelings.

You deserve to live your ideal life.

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Diana Antholis
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