Joy Strategies
For Your Success in the Business of Life

      In This Issue....
  • The Joy of Saying YES!! 
  • My Latest HBR Article About A Decision-Making Scorecard
  • Join Us for Networking & a Tour of workSwell collaborative
  • Susan's Year of Saying YES!

Dear Friends of Allison Rimm and Associates,

Have you struggled with indecision? Or have you decided what you want, but haven't gotten around to getting it? You are not alone. If you are like many of my coaching clients, there are many things you would like to accomplish personally and professionally. It makes a person wonder why such capable people face so many roadblocks to getting what they want - some of them self-imposed. 
The Joy of Saying YES!!

Come on, you know you want to do something.  In my coaching practice, I see highly accomplished professionals from across a variety of industries – people who are capable of getting things done – stymied when it comes to doing something for themselves. Does that sound familiar to you? Why is it that you don’t follow Nike's advice and just do it?
Just today, I saw a client who exemplifies one such reason many people face. Linda is a hugely successful entrepreneur in the financial services industry. She’s managed billions of dollars in assets for her clients. Yet, when it came to doing some homework to help advance her own personal and professional goals, she found herself resisting – until she caught herself in the act. At first, she saw this exercise as just another stress-inducing task that was taking her away from tackling her epic to-do list. But when she stopped to think about it, she said to herself, “Hey, this is for ME!” When she realized addressing her own well-being was deserving of topping the list, she was able to attack the project with genuine enthusiasm.
Still others don’t believe they deserve the object of their desire. Once again, it requires the effort to notice when you are saying no to yourself and to pay attention to why you are doing so. You can’t make any changes until you are aware of what you are doing. Once you see how your own thoughts or behaviors are standing in your way, you can make a different choice. One tendency I’ve observed is that many people feel like they have to eat their metaphorical vegetables before they have their dessert. My friend Jean was able to say “yes!” and fulfill a lifelong dream. Now she can be seen zipping around town and even speeding around a racetrack in her new sports car. She’s having a blast!  

My Latest HBR Article: Use Your Head AND Heart to Make Important Decisions

You have a big career decision to make. Maybe you’ve been offered an exciting new opportunity — on the other side of the country. Or maybe you’ve been unhappy in your job and need a change — but haven’t been able to find inspiring alternatives.

Several of the professionals I’ve coached share a common struggle: how to make major decisions that balance career growth with satisfaction in other domains of their lives. While it’s often easy to see the impact a certain choice will have on objective criteria such as duties, position, prestige, salary, and opportunities for advancement, evaluating the “softer” considerations is tougher. But things like cultural fit, the quality of interactions with colleagues, ability to exert influence, and impact on family and social life, all deeply affect how personally satisfied someone feels with their work.

To help my clients take an objective look at decidedly subjective considerations, I’ve developed a tool that allows them to quantify and visualize the pros and cons of various choices — taking into consideration the impact each would have on matters of both heart and head.

Here’s how I used it with a physician I’ll call Dinesh. He was feeling stuck trying to decide whether he should continue working in his current position at a prestigious academic medical center, which he truly enjoyed, or accept an exciting leadership position at a nearby community hospital. Dinesh was weighing some pretty standard “head” issues of salary, resources, leadership potential, commute, and call schedules. But he knew this was a huge change and needed to evaluate the more feelings-based issues such as how much would he would enjoy his new colleagues, have the flexibility to manage his workload, and be able to prioritize family time, etc. Some of his “heart” issues also included his self-image as it related to “just” being a busy, highly regarded clinician vs. being seen as a leader with broader influence beyond his own patient care responsibilities.

Timeless Wisdom

“Cynics always say no. Saying yes leads to knowledge. So for as long as you have the strength to, say yes.."
-- Stephen Colbert

Come to Our Brookline Networking Event on May 17

Say hello, meet great people, learn something new and have some fun.

Sips & Snacks 5:30-7 PM 6:15ish Program: Make Big Decisions Using Your Head AND Heart

A brief talk based on my HBR article introducing the tool to help you make complex, important decisions.

While you are here, tour the dedicated workspaces and conference room available through workSwell collaborative, our coworking space in Brookline Village. We would love to have you join our friendly professional community.

Susan's Year of Saying YES!!

Susan Silberberg is my friend and co-owner of workSwell collaborative. Susan is a busy professional & mother of three kids and Leo (the handsome blonde in the photo above). She recently mentioned that she'd been taking care of everyone but herself. To remedy this, she has declared 2017 her "year of saying YES!" I was so taken by this idea, I said I would chronicle her adventures in my newsletter

At this week's meeting, I asked what she'd said yes to this past month. I already knew the answer to one - she and I finally managed to go out for dinner after trying for months to find a free evening. The next YES is even bigger. She's off to Stockholm to give a lecture. Instead of coming home right after on the red-eye, she's staying a couple of extra days to explore the city & enjoy her own company, doing all the things SHE wants to do. It seems like years since I've seen her eyes sparkle as brightly as they did while she described her itinerary. Bon Voyage Susan!

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