In Mussar, the tradition of Jewish self-discipline, the classical work known as Mesillat Yesharim (Path of the Upright/Straight) works through a series of character traits that one should work on
in sequence. The penultimate trait to acquire on the path to holiness is humility.

Now, as a Reconstructionist, I tend to approach traditional texts with an eye toward mining them for values and ideas of enduring worth, understanding the original context, and then willing to
use creativity and honesty in reconstructing the text for a contemporary application.

In this case, there is a lot to do with humility and pride in the original text (published in 1740) that many would see today in a negative light. It’s not big on self-esteem, a trait that today we
see as psychologically healthy. However, when the author, Rabbi Moses Hayyim Luzzato, speaks of acquiring humility, his words can be reconstructed as useful guidance for straight allies who begin to approach advocacy for LGBTQIA folks.
 

We have thus far spoken of humility in thought. We shall now speak of humility in action. The subject may be divided into four parts, dealing respectively with humility in one’s bearing, in enduring insults, in hating to exercise authority and shunning applause, and in honoring everyone.
 

As a straight ally, I have to begin my own advocacy by having humility in my bearing - admitting what I don’t know to my GLBTQ friends and colleagues, even that I’m sure there are things I don’t know that I don’t know! Most of all, I need to listen much more than I speak. I need to realize how important pride is for individuals who have been told to hide who they are, and allow their expressions to come to the fore.

Enduring insults means being willing to give up straight privilege when we stand with the LGBTQIA community, and deeply understanding the ways in which intolerance manifests itself. Hating to exercise authority and shunning applause means that as an advocate, I cannot speak for my LGBTQIA friend, neither should I be seeking the limelight for being an ally. Honoring everyone means that it is upon me to create a radically welcoming approach within every context over which I hold sway, including Jewish institutions, but in informal social circles as well when the opportunity arises.

Just as the time has come for pride for LGBTQ folks, not just for a week or a month, but every day, as straight allies behold that pride with awe and love, we need to lean into our own humility in order to be the best passionate advocates and supporters we can be.