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“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”—John C. Maxwell

Change is inevitable…and situational. How we cope with change is a transition…and is psychological. This edition of the Next in Life newsletter is focussed on transitions. Are you in the middle of one?

In the Media

What are the real questions you should ask yourself before retiring? Check out The Women’s Wealth Canada podcast in which financial planner Glory Gray interviews me about the non-financial side of retirement planning and what I’m seeing in my transition and retirement coaching practice.

The second half of life starts with a transition

Any of these life events happen to you yet? – end of a marriage, loss of a job or business, death of a partner, an illness, or retirement? Some element of your identity is gone – you are not a husband or wife, a job title, or the vibrant active person you were before.

Psychologist James Hollis calls this the second half of life, and it’s a developmental opportunity.

People in the second half of life are going back to themselves. But where did they get lost? Where everyone does – unwittingly making choices that did not honour themselves. Choosing security, pleasing other people (including parents who may be long gone), following the crowd – name it and it emerges as a factor in what has held people back from themselves.

Now they are discovering ways to make a difference. It’s called generativity — a level of concern beyond yourself and family that develops especially during middle age; a need to nurture and guide younger people and contribute to the next generation. Thank you, psychologist Erik Erikson.

The second half of life is a call to get from breakdown to breakthrough. And it leads to lives with a strong sense of purpose and filled with meaningful.

Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash

Shift happens

You’re in transition and have landed in the messy middle. That place after “what was then” and before “what is to come.”

Because we only know what we know we rush to replace what we had – a job in the field that never felt quite right – a partner just like the last one – or we retire without thought to what brought us joy and fuelled our passions while working and wonder why retirement feels so empty.

Yet the horrible feelings that arise in the messy middle are requisites to letting go and moving forward. Although the answers lie within, we resist this journey for fear of what we’ll find. You can read about that journey in the complete article here.

Photo by SOULSANA on Unsplash 

Are we underestimating the over 60 crowd?

According to psychologist and gerontologist Ken Dychtward, yes! Here was his rejoinder to actor Harrison Ford who suggested that young people should plant millions of trees to save the planet.

Let’s connect!

Talk to me! I welcome your comments, stories, and feedback. You can do that through the newsletter, by emailing me at stefa@nextinlife.ca or by connecting on LinkedIn. I post there regularly raising awareness about the world needing people in the second half of life to do whatever they do best. By contrast, this newsletter will plop into your inbox once every two months. I look forward to hearing from you. Thanks for reading this newsletter.

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