When interests don’t align
What are couples most worried about on the relationship front looking ahead to retirement? Getting enough alone time. With work, we can, in some measure, anticipate when and for how long we would be home alone. There is some psychological comfort, relief, in the knowing.
My husband complained that he felt like he was being kicked out of the house when I was at my wits end, needing time alone. Yet if he scheduled time away, even an hour, the tension would not build. A known time of solitude is gold!
Surely time apart from your partner is among the top challenges in these pandemic times! What strategies are you using to get time alone when you have nowhere to go?
After time alone, concern about different interests and priorities was a close second. Instead of “He said. She said.” – the classic divide when couples disagree – we now have “He wants. She wants.” Do you know the plans or dreams of your partner? Are they compatible with yours?
Not sure where to start figuring out your own priorities? Check in with yourself. What is important to you? The Next in Life values list may help. Values can and do change over time. Where are you at?
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