All Things Alchemical: Finding Treasure and Inspiration in Your Life
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JUNE 2016

All Things Alchemical is the monthly E-newsletter of personal transformation for those seeking grace and clarity. Enjoy discoveries centered on health, spirit, purpose, archetypes, symbology and artistic expression that will guide you dancing through life.

Note From Kendra


Dear Friends,

Last day of school, family gatherings, barbecues with friends, long morning strolls at sunrise, and the feeling of being free of any schedule: it’s summertime! The word speaks volumes of intentions of fun times and things to look forward to.
Vacation is one of those things for me. Each year for the past 11 years, I have taken a trip with my daughters. It started out with a trip with Allie, my oldest daughter, before sending her off to her first year of college. Then when her sister, Caitlynn, reached the same age, she joined us. We have traversed coast to coast and have even visited another country or two, which I was blessed to do with my son as well when we went to Machu Picchu a couple of years ago.
This year, we are embarking on a road trip driving from Arizona to Vegas with a Grand Canyon stop in between. I’m not sure we thought it through fully as I hear the news in mid-June about the heat warnings in Arizona. I am rethinking the burro ride down into the canyon in 100 degree heat. Nonetheless, good times will be had, and, as always, memories will be captured.
People often say, “Must be nice,” and you know, it really is. I don’t take one year for granted that we are blessed to have this experience together. I remember as a child taking vacations to the ocean each summer with my family. And then as we got older, they stopped. Those times together are never forgotten. The time together doesn’t have to be extravagant; time together is what you make of it. I now visit with my parents as often as I can on the weekends at their northern Minnesota home. We have a short span together, but it is cherished time.
Whatever a vacation means for you, make sure that you plan one before the summer’s end sneaks up on you. Maybe start a tradition of some kind that you can look forward to each year with great anticipation and excitement.

Until we meet again in August – have a safe and joyous July! 


The Damsel

The Damsel in Distress may be the oldest female archetype in all of popular literature and the movies. She is always beautiful and vulnerable and in need of rescue, specifically by a Knight, and, once rescued, is taken care of in lavish style. When disappointed, a Damsel must go through a process of empowerment and learn to take care of herself in the world. The shadow side of this archetype mistakenly teaches old patriarchal views that women are weak and teaches them to be helpless and in need of protection. It leads a woman to expect to have someone else who will fight her battles for her while she remains devoted and physically attractive and concealed in the castle. Many women still expect to marry a man who will give them a castle and take care of them. And some men are raised to expect to do this (see Prince and Knight).  
The Damsel’s fear of going it alone holds the Damsel/Knight relationship together. It also often shatters the relationship when the Prince or Knight grows older and expects to have a perennially young, attractive Princess at his beck and call. The Princess inevitably grows older even if she remains helpless. Or she becomes more interested in the outside world, develops skills and competencies, and is unable to maintain the same old dynamic of dependency. Either way, most Damsel/Prince relationships ultimately find that they change or fail. The Damsel/Princess must ultimately learn to fight her own battles and evolve into a Queen.
The Princess is more often associated with romance rather than distress. She awaits a Knight who is worthy of her beauty and rank and will take her not to his castle but to a palace. The castles that Damsels are taken to have prisons, cold stones, drawbridges, and moats. Palaces are fantastically beautiful and charmed and are associated with ballrooms and elegance. The common (archetypal) expression “Daddy’s little princess” implies an adoring father who brings up his daughter surrounded by beauty and abundance. There is no “Daddy’s little damsel in distress.” The Princess and the Damsel, however, both are taught to be helpless and do share a yearning for a Knight as a partner in life, the implication being that without a Knight, they are powerless in this world. The challenge inherent in these archetypal patterns, therefore, is to do for yourself what you expect the Knight to do for you-provide for and protect yourself.
The Princess archetype is also influenced by our colloquial use of the term and especially its heavy freight of antifeminist connotations of a woman who is overly demanding, as in “Jewish-American Princess” or in the story of the Princess and the Pea. Even when used positively, the word can imply an unreal, bland, or cosseted character, like the teenage daughter nicknamed Princess on the TV series Father Knows Best. But a genuine Princess looks out not for her own comfort and whimsy but for the welfare of those around her. In Asia, tales abound of clever and resourceful Princesses and of conflicts between schools of martial arts (for instance, a Prince and Princess battle it out in the Ang Lee film Crouching Tiger; Hidden Dragon). And Scheherazade bravely married the sultan who had decided to kill all his new wives at daybreak, and beguiled him with tales for a thousand and one nights until he rescinded his decree, thus saving all the women.
In reviewing your relationship to this archetype, return to your fantasies as a young girl and note what your expectations were in looking for a mate. Most significantly, were you (or are you) consciously or unconsciously awaiting the arrival of your “Knight in Shining Armor”? Did you think or behave like a Damsel? Were you hoping to be rescued? And if you are now coping with the consequences of a broken relationship, can you trace the reasons for the failed partnership back to being disappointed that your expectations as a Damsel were not met?
Films: Pearl White in The Perils of Pauline silent films; Fay Wray in King Kong; Betty Hutton in The Perils of Pauline; Jean Simmons in Young Bess; Robin Wright in The Princess Bride; Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia in the Star Wars trilogy; Ingrid Bergman in Anastasia; Gwyneth Paltrow in Shakespeare in Love; Kate Winslet in Titanic; Jeff Daniels in Something Wild.
Fiction: Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell; Emma by Jane Austen.
Fairy Tales: Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Rapunzel, Cinderella.
Religion/Myth: Ko-no-Hana (in Shinto belief, the Japanese Blossom Princess, who symbolizes the delicate aspects of earthly life); Io (in Greek myth, the princess daughter of a river god, who suffered continually as the object of Zeus’ lust); Princess Aigiarm (strong, valiant daughter of Mongolian King Kaidu, who offered herself in marriage to any suitor who could wrestle her down but who, if he lost, had to give her a horse. She never married and won ten thousand horses). 
Myss, Caroline.  Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential.  New York: Three Rivers Press, 2002, 2003. 379-381. Print.


Affirmation Cards
Contributed by Anne Barton.

I love affirmation card decks. I think they are a great tool for answering questions we have at any particular moment in our life, or for just providing a specific focus for a day, month, or year. I pick cards from 4 decks at least 2 times per year – on New Year’s Day and on my birthday. They are always uniquely significant for where I am in that moment! And I often pick the same card over and over, which is a great clue that this is an issue I need to look at more closely…
I shuffled and picked this card specifically for readers of this newsletter this month. If it resonates with you, try posting it someplace where you can reflect on it daily for the next few weeks.

INNER PEACE CARD from Wayne Dyer
I develop a positive state of mind.
The state of your life is nothing more
than a reflection of your state of mind.


20 Minute Summer Salad Recipe 

As I pass through the aisle’s of the Farmers Market I am reminded of the simplicity of eating summer salads using only the freshest of ingredients and relishing the way my body feels in its wholeness from eating well.
I am sharing a recipe for a hot summer night if you are need of something to throw together quick in 20 minutes. Even if you have to par boil a couple chicken breasts to shred.
Click here to get the recipe.


TUT- A Note from the Universe

I wish there were words to tell you,<<First Name>>, how beautiful life really is, how safe you always are, and of the love that constantly bathes you. 

How powerful you are, how much you can have, and of the glories that await. 

Of the perfection, the magic, and the infinite possibilities. 

But you actually threatened me with bodily harm if I were to ever let you peek at where you were headed before you arrived. 

Spiritual gangsta', 
    The Universe

P.S. You always did love surprises, and, wow, are you going to love what's coming....

My Favorites

A peek into a my favorite apps, websites, and recommended reads.

Angel App
My son told me about this app a few years ago and I immediately downloaded to my iPhone because it is a fun one-click access for guidance! Click here to check it out.

Eat Fresh and Local
Summer is the time to check out your local Farmers Market. I especially enjoy the flowers, and fresh produce. Click here to find your local market. 

Read It
Mary, my assistant, read this book and her comments were, “One of the best novels I have read in a long time, although not a light summer read, it is beautifully written and is an intensely rich love story taking place during WWII. I highly recommend this 5 star read!” Click here to read more.
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